WELCOME TO COFFEE WITH GOD 

By Pastor Jerri

LIFE CHANGES WITH SEASONS

Paul taught Titus what to say to men and women about relationships. You can read this in Titus chapter 2. The entire chapter discusses relationships between men and women. Times have changed over the years, but the basics are the same.

Paul told Titus to teach men to exercise self-control, which means to keep their emotions intact when dealing with family. For a man to have the respect of the family, they need to live a wholesome lifestyle and have the ability to love unconditionally as God loves us. The head of the household is to have a sound faith in God and lead his wife and children in Godly living. Teach the Bible to his family. Family Bible study should be a normal part of family life. One or two nights a week, have a family Bible study on what God is asking of us. These days, many men have lost the understanding of how important this is to hold the family together. The husband must live the respectful life he is instructing his family. 

The wife should live in a way that honors God. Understanding what God expects from a wife and mother, according to the Bible. Jesus said the best way to walk with God is to walk in total love. Jesus explained that if you love someone, you will not hurt them. Love heals the broken-hearted. It is never too late to bring love into the life of a family. Just do it. We all know what love is; authentic love does not seek its own way or keep records of wrongs but instead fosters unity and spiritual growth through genuine care and a commitment to truth and kindness to each other. To be understanding as each person grows in this love. 

In any unit of people, there must be a leader or the head of the group. In the family, God placed the man as the head of the house. This is not a boss, this is a leader to show the love of God and how to live together in peace and kindness. Husband and wife need to have meetings about what the family is doing and gain an agreement, and then do it. In all dealings, someone had the last say, and in marriage, God put the man in this place. It is hard for some to accept this, but it is a fact, and if the household were to adopt this kind of leadership, it would give the family a great advantage in life. Love does heal a multitude of sins.

1 Peter 4:8 Most important of all, continue to show deep love for each other, for love covers a multitude of sins.

In the book of John, he wrote that we are instructed to love our family; it is not an option. Love is the stronghold of a family. If there is no truth, kindness, understanding, and love in the family, it will not stand. If people, both men and women would see this before they get married, they would have a better chance of succeeding in the marriage.

John 15:12 This is my commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you.

The children of the family are the product of the structure of the family. Remember, it is never too late to change the structure of the family. Just have a family meeting, discuss the issues, and make the changes with the whole family. So, everyone understands what is needed and joins in making it happen. One of the real issues in families is not having unity in the family. Everyone is not aware of what is expected and why. Children need structure to be able to follow through with what they are supposed to do and why. Kids are smarter than they are given credit for. Given the chance to understand what the family truly needs to be happy, most children are eager to help.

Proverbs 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.

To have a joyful life that is productive and happy, there needs to be love as the first step. Everyone in a family needs to feel loved! Members of a family will do strange things to try to draw attention to themselves when they feel unloved. Many dysfunctional children are simply kids who feel unloved.

Psalm 103:17-18 But the steadfast love of the Lord is from everlasting to everlasting on those who fear him, and his righteousness to children's children, to those who keep his covenant and remember to do his commandments.

If a family starts truly showing love for each other, it will heal many wounds. Husbands show your wife you absolutely love her, wives show your husbands you absolutely love him, and by all means show your children they are loved. In order to do this, “FORGIVENESS” must play a part. We have all hurt each other at times; if that hurt is not dealt with, it will fester into resentment, which will turn to lost love. It can be restored, start today by meeting with the family and talking about forgiving each other, and start loving each other. It is amazing what a little love can do for a wounded family. When the parents begin to love each other again, the children will follow suit.

Colossians 3:12-15: Put on then, as God's chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience, bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive.  And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony. And let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, to which indeed you were called in one body. And be thankful. 

I pray Husbands and wives will take this seriously and make changes in their home if needed. The children will follow suit. Do not think this will be easy; it will not be easy. There are a lot of hurts, misunderstandings, and pain in a family that has suffered lost love. Love can be restored if the parents make it happen. Love truly does change a multitude of hurt in a family or relationship! You can start today to make changes to give your family the love that is needed.

THE MESSAGE OF SALVATION IS FOR ALL

Romans 10:9-10 ESV because, if you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. For with the heart one believes and is justified, and with the mouth one confesses and is saved.

I pray everyone who reads this will seek to know God in the deep and wonderful way of Salvation, all who will accept Jesus as their Savior will receive Salvation and your name will be in the BOOK OF LIFE. Remember that accepting Jesus as Savior means repentance and change in your life!

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